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Email Author: Kristin Marino
Story Posted: 7/30/2008 04:49 pm

Make a memorable toast to the wedding couple

The wedding toast can be one of the most memorable moments of a wedding or one of the most embarrassing. These answers to some of the most common wedding toast questions will take the guesswork out of this wedding tradition.


Who toasts?

According to Merrily Rocco, designer-owner of Merrily Wed Wedding Design and Coordination, toasts customarily are made by the father of the bride, the best man and the maid of honor. Other family or bridal party members also will make toasts based on the couple’s preferences. The bride and groom may toast guests and family members and thank them for their support.

“I always recommend determining in advance who will be toasting at your wedding reception to avoid ‘opening the mic’ and suddenly having a marathon toast session,” Rocco said.

“This also helps prevent what may be an inappropriate toast from a guest who has celebrated a little too much at the bar, thereby creating a potentially embarrassing situation for the bride and groom,” she added.


When is it time to toast?

The toast usually is a planned part of the reception. The master of ceremonies may announce the toast, or the toasters may clink their glasses with silverware to gain everyone’s attention. The time is coordinated with the serving of champagne.


What to say?

Don’t wait until the last minute to plan your toast. Hoping that the spirit will move you to say just the right thing is a mistake. Take the toast somewhat seriously.

Debra Fine, author of “The Fine Art of the Big Talk,” wrote, “Jokes may be well-received at a bachelor party or bridal shower, but not at the rehearsal or wedding dinner.”

This is not the time to talk about bachelor party antics or that crazy weekend in Las Vegas. Keep in mind there will be children and grandparents in attendance.


How to say it?

“The point of a toast is to say something nice,” Fine wrote.

Tell a personal story or experience, but keep away from embarrassing or private stories. Including a well-chosen quote from a religious figure, writer, celebrity or philosopher, or a cultural quote such as an African or Celtic saying, will draw people in.

Practice your toast, and run it by a few other people. Fine also suggests speaking slowly and deliberately and making eye contact.

Most importantly, don’t worry about being profound. A brief, heartfelt toast will be remembered by the bride and groom and their guests for years to come.

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